For the children and adolescents, the references are people, words, gestures that will go to provide the formation of the identity. Therefore, children and young that establish bonds of harmony at its moments of disillusionments, and that they can receive affection, attention and understanding will go to develop one healthy identity, obtaining to support frustrations until the adjusted moment to carry through its desires. Defining school as a social institution that if characterizes as a collective workstation directed toward the formation of the young generations, different of others as many social institutions, are evidenced that the school is responsible for the pertaining to school education, are a space destined to the formal pedagogical work, to the agreement of rules, to the formation of ethical, moral and affective values, to the exercise of the citizenship. However, how much it lacks educating/to the son a familiar environment healthful and balanced, in which it coexists a familiar desestrutura (father absence, of mother), it is left to take for the impulse in direction of the irresponsibility or inconseqncia, being thus generated inadequate actions and insensatas that will go to disorganize and to harm the formation of its character and its personality. When the school is unprepared in such a way in its functional picture, as well as not it fulfills its social paper in the formation of educating, is verified that individuals discouraged have themselves from this pedagogical pertaining to school disinterest/and incapable to continue in search of its place in the society.

Thus generating, not motivated pupils, indisciplinados and with low auto-esteem. As Montandon and Perrenoud say (1987, P. 7), ' ' in a way or discrete, pleasant or threatening other, onipresente or, the school is part of the daily life of each famlia' '. At the moment where school and family to obtain to establish a partnership in the way as children will go to promote the education of its educandos/, many of the conflicts today observed in classroom, will be to the few surpassed.